Friday, September 2, 2011
from I-it to I-thou
When I was in high school, I met one of my best friend. At first, I met her in my biology class, then I realized we also have English class together, so we started to talk to each other. That was an I-It relationship, which we don't talk much about ourselves. Basically, we were just hi-bye kind of friends. One time, there were a Bio project that we needed to work together, we had more time to communicate. Since we had to talk about details about the project, we exchanged our phone number and email address. That turned our relationship into I-You relationship. We chatted online about ourselves besides Bio project. After we got to know each other, I realized she is a really nice person. Then when I spent more time being with her, our relationship turned into I-Thou relationship, because we were really closed to each other. We started playing sports together, and sharing experiences about ourselves. Once our relationship became I-Thou relationship, we both treat each other as a very important person in life.
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Hi Denise,
ReplyDeleteI could relate to your post completely because I also met one of my best friends in high school. Like yours, my conversations also revolved around things in class and not around ourselves. As I got to know my friend more, we began to share personal stories and talked outside of the classroom. The more trustworthy the relationship became, the more comfortable I felt about sharing certain aspects of family or friends that I was bothered by. I also noticed that as relationships develop, you not only expand your range of topics in discussion, but also in interests and occasions as well. You are more likely to go to the beach or movies with a close friend than with an acquaintance from class.