Comfirming others

                I agree that it is always hard to confirm others when I disagree with them. Since we live in a huge society, it is very easy that we have different opinion towards things. In the session, Confirming and Disconfirming Climates from the text, I learned that all of us need confirmation to be healthy and to grow. In other word, we need confirmation to feel cherished and respected. There are few different levels of confirmation and disconfirmation. The first level is recognizing that another person exists, we disconfirm others at a fundamental level when we don’t acknowledge their existence. The second level is acknowledgment of what another feels, thinks, or says; if we disconfirm others, our responses will be tangential, irrelevant. And the strongest level is endorsement, it involves accepting another’s feeling or thought through the communication process. From the text, I also learn that disagreements can be productive and healthy. Sometimes, it is fundamentally disconfirming to have others ignore what we say and think.